5 ways to appreciate during unhappy times
By Bes on Sep 26, 2007.
I was staying at a hotel in Alabama last week when I had the chance of meeting a lady working in the guest services office several times. She would act very happy around noon, and act very unhappy and non-responsive in the mornings. Regardless of her reasons for acting differently, she showed both her unhappiness and her rudeness to me depending on the time of the day for 4 straight days.
Your website can be like a hotel. Your readers can come to stay and if they contact you, they can notice how you act. A human being goes through different things in life, so it is not always possible to be happy, polite or communicative depending on what you may be going through. You can be feeling unhappy or sad or rude or something similar because of things like personal life issues, health problems, relationship or work problems, etc.
To help you deal with both appreciation and unhappiness of any kind at the same time, I am sharing with you 5 practical tips for approaching appreciation that you can put to practice instantly if you wish. Following are 5 simple ways to appreciate your readers while you are not feeling your best. This is not a list of how to hide your mood. This is a list of how to deal with appreciating others while you are unhappy or down for any reason.
5 ways to appreciate during unhappy times
- Avoid appreciation for the time being
The best thing to do when you are not feeling energetic enough to show real, complete appreciation is to pause the appreciation for a while. If showing appreciation is not critically urgent, you can appreciation after a little bit time has passed. Whatever is making you feel unhappy can probably pass away, slow down, decrease or change forms as time passes, allowing you to be able to deal with it more. That can result in a more strong grasp on the appreciation handle.
Take a break. Reply to someone later. Let someone know you are busy and that you will definitely get back to them later. That can allow you to focus on dealing with whatever is making you unhappy, instead of diverting the unhappiness to others.
- Avoid fake appreciation
I talked about fake appreciation earlier this year. The more fake appreciation you show, the more obligated you will be to appreciate even if you do not want to.
Imagine having someone close in the family get hurt in an automobile accident and even though you are sad or worried for that family member, you have to force yourself to show appreciation to someone. Avoid fake appreciation, and you can avoid further uneasiness that you will feel and face while forcing yourself to do something during unhappy times.
- See if appreciation can make you happy
Sometimes, something can make you more unhappy because it is not related to the topic you want to think about. At the same time, appreciating someone may result in a distraction where someone else appreciating you in return can make you happy and focus less on whatever is worrying or bothering you. You have try it yourself for each situation, to see whether or not appreciating others helps you.
You may be having a bad day, and going to work and appreciating customers or co-workers, or even appreciating family members at home can put your mind to work on other things for the time being.
- Appreciate less
This can be a bit alarming for some people. Sometimes, if you are unhappy, appreciating less can help you cope with whatever is bothering you, and also allow you to appreciate others. Appreciating less because of being unhappy cannot be a good excuse for not appreciating, as your appreciation habits should be visible for times when you do make the effort to appreciate.
Instead of writing a long paragraph thanking someone, you can simply write a single sentence to thank that person. You can also thank that person more later when you are feeling better.
- Appreciate more
If you must appreciate someone and at the same time you cannot forget or get rid of the thing that is bothering you, you can try to appreciate more. Appreciating someone more, when done normally and probably according to your and the other person’s standards, can result in your current mood status to remain intact. It can also result in the appreciation behavior to not get affected on a critical level.
Being extra nice to others because you realize how making others happy is a good thing, can help you deal with both the unhappiness and the concept of appreciation also. Again, appreciating more can result in fake appreciation, so you have to figure out how much appreciation is considered more, and how much appreciation is considered fake, depending on your current mood.
So there you have it. The above 5 ways can be applied to many situations, including situations in the offline world. By knowing how to deal with the concept of appreciation while you are not in the mood for any serious or non-serious reason, you can better treat others in the long run and be happier yourself also.
What do you think about this? Thanks for reading. 
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Interesting post. Appreciation is something that comes very difficult for many people. Not even when in a bad mood but just in general, people don’t often appreciate the efforts, contributions, and offerings of others. That has been my experience/observation at least. You have some insightful and helpful tips here. I think that if people felt and showed appreciation more, or were better at showing it, things would be much better for everyone as a whole. But one thing that also frustrates me is when people think they deserve appreciation when they really don’t, and then get frustrated for the lack of appreciation they’re shown.
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